FOR COUPLES WHO’VE GROWN APART AND WANT TO RECONNECT

Is Your Relationship Feeling Stuck? Let’s Build a Stronger Connection Today.

Discover Brenton’s evidence-based approach that has helped couples rebuild connection, restore intimacy, and rediscover joy together.

Dear Friend Seeking Relationship Renewal,

If you're reading this right now, chances are you're experiencing one of life's most painful struggles – a relationship that once brought joy now filled with disconnect, frustration, or painful silence.

You're not alone.

My job is to work with individuals and couples who come to me feeling exactly as you might be feeling right now:

Trapped in cycles of the same arguments that never get resolved
Disconnected from the person who once felt like your best friend and closest ally
Exhausted from trying everything you can think of, only to end up back where you started
Worried that the relationship you've invested so much in might be beyond saving

The Truth Most Therapists Won't Tell You

Real change in a relationship doesn’t come from quick fixes or surface-level solutions.

What often makes the biggest difference is learning to recognise and shift the deeper patterns that quietly shape how you connect and respond to each other.

Through years of working with couples, I’ve seen that when the right approach is applied with care and consistency, meaningful progress becomes possible.

Introducing The HEART Method™

A Holistic Engagement Approach to Relationship Transformation

I'm Brenton Surgenor, I've dedicated my career to developing an integrative approach to relationship transformation that combines:

Gottman Method - research-based couples therapy approach
Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT) - Attachment-based, neuroscience-informed couples therapy
Ackerman Relational Approach (ARA) - Multigenerational, systemic relational therapy model
Practical Tools you can implement immediately for real-world results

My approach is about forward movement, practical strategies, and measurable improvements in your relationship starting from our very first session.

What Makes My Approach Different?

Tailored To You:

No cookie-cutter solutions. Your relationship is unique, and your path to renewal will be customised for your specific situation.

Empowerment Based:

You'll leave each session with practical tools and strategies you can implement immediately.

Inclusive & Understanding

Whatever your background or relationship structure, you'll find a judgment-free zone where all are welcomed and respected.

Holistic Integration:

We address the mental, emotional, and practical aspects of relationship health.

Results Focused:

We will set goals to work toward sustainable change so that you can enjoy harmony.

Stories of Hope and Healing

Each couple’s journey is unique — here are a few examples of what’s been possible through therapy.

Emotional Affair and Rebuilding Trust:

Phil and Katie sought therapy after an emotional betrayal rocked their relationship. Using the Gottman Method’s Atone–Attune–Attach framework, they worked through pain, rebuilt emotional safety, and redefined their bond. Gradually, trust was restored through accountability, connection rituals, and shared meaning.

Invisible Labour and Emotional Distance

Anna and Chris were overwhelmed by stress and mutual resentment, driven by unbalanced responsibilities and emotional withdrawal. Therapy helped them regulate in real-time, understand attachment patterns, and create a “couple bubble” of emotional safety. They shifted from frustration to collaboration.

Constant Conflict and Disconnection:

Adam and Ben’s daily arguments masked deeper attachment wounds and nervous system dysregulation. Therapy slowed their interactions, enhanced awareness of reactivity, and fostered co-regulation. As they built a secure-functioning relationship, emotional closeness returned through mutual protection and care.

Here's What Happens When You Book A

Consultation Today

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Warning: This Is Not For Everyone

I only work with clients who are:

Committed to doing the necessary work (even when it's uncomfortable)
Open to examining their own contribution to relationship patterns
Ready to implement new approaches and practices

If that sounds like you, I invite you to take the next step.

Your Relationship Deserves This Chance

The painful truth is that relationships rarely improve on their own. Without the right guidance, most couples continue to drift further apart until connection seems impossible to restore.

But it doesn't have to be that way for you.

The couples who walk into my office feeling hopeless walk out with renewed connection, practical tools, and a clear path forward – often after just one session.

What Happens After You Book?

1. Confirmation

You'll immediately receive a confirmation email with your appointment details

2. Relationship Assessment

You'll get access to the Relationship Assessment Tool to complete before our session

3. Consultation Session

We'll meet for your 15-minute Consultation Session (online or in-person)

4. Outcome: Clarity & Direction

You'll leave with clarity, direction, and at least one powerful technique to implement right away

Don't let another day pass in disconnect and frustration.

STILL NOT SURE IF THIS IS FOR YOU?

Frequently Asked Questions

Do I need to bring my partner to the consultation?

Absolutely not. Many clients start their journey alone, and that's completely fine. Individual sessions are just as powerful and can create significant shifts in your relationship. It often only takes one person making changes to transform the entire relationship dynamic. If your partner is hesitant or unwilling to join initially, coming alone is an excellent first step.

How is your approach different from traditional couples therapy?

Some traditional therapies focuses solely on communication techniques without addressing the underlying patterns. My integrative approach combines multiple evidence-based methodologies (The Gottman Method, PACT, Ackerman Relational Approach) to create faster, more sustainable results. I focus on helping you find practical solutions to your unique challenges, develop fit for purpose relationship tools and create a secure functioning relationship.

What if my relationship issues seem beyond repair?

Many clients come to me believing their situation is "too far gone." However, I've worked with couples on the brink of separation who have completely transformed their relationships. The key is whether both parties have even a small desire for improvement. If there's any hope left, there's potential for transformation.

I've tried relationship counselling before and it didn't work. Why would this be different?

This is one of the most common concerns I hear. Previous counselling experiences can fail because they rely on generic approaches that don't address your specific relationship dynamics. My integrative approach identifies and transforms your unique relationship patterns.

Is this only for couples in crisis?

Not at all. While many clients come during difficult times, my approach is equally valuable for couples who simply want to enhance an already good relationship. Prevention is always easier than repair, and strengthening your connection before major issues arise can lead to even more profound results.

What if my partner refuses to participate even after I start?

I provide specific strategies for creating positive change even when only one person is actively engaged in the process. Many clients are surprised to discover how much influence they can have on the relationship dynamic through their own transformation.

How much does ongoing support cost after the initial consultation?

Following our consultation, I work with clients to structure support tailored to different needs and budgets. These range from HKD$1500 to $6750 per month depending on session frequency and additional resources. However, there's absolutely no obligation to continue beyond the consultation—you'll receive tremendous value from our first meeting regardless of whether we continue working together.

Do you work with all relationship types?

Yes! I provide an inclusive practice welcoming all relationship structures including monogamous, polyamorous, open relationships, LGBTQ+ partnerships, and more. Each relationship deserves support from someone who understands and respects its unique dynamics.

What if I'm not sure if I want to stay in my relationship?

This uncertainty is perfectly normal and something I work with regularly. The consultation can provide clarity about your options and feelings, helping you make the best decision for your wellbeing—whether that means rebuilding the relationship or finding a compassionate way to transition apart.

Is everything we discuss confidential?

Absolutely. I maintain strict confidentiality for all client sessions. Your privacy is paramount, and nothing discussed will be shared without your explicit permission.

Don’t Let Another Day Pass in Disconnect and Frustration

To your relationship success,

Brenton Surgenor Relationship Transformation Specialist

P.S. Still on the fence? Consider this: Six months from now, your relationship will be in one of two places – either continuing the painful patterns you're experiencing now, or transformed with renewed connection and understanding. The choice you make today determines which path you'll take. [Click the button below] and take the first step toward the relationship you deserve.